Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Sentimental Series Part 1

The Best Friend

Clearly not our prettiest picture - but the perfect one.

On Saturday, I met up with my best friend for what was to be the last time before we moved.  She was back in town for just two days and wanted to meet for breakfast.  She just had a grandbaby and so has and will be out of state helping to take care of her newest grandchild. 

It was a laughter filled morning despite beyond busy schedules and earlier in the day crying jags because of my leaving.  We discussed all the normal stuff which was our lives, food, and anything that will make us laugh.

Despite being old enough to be my mom, Sue has been my best friend for the past 5 years.  Our friendship started a few years before that with a simple act of service.  I brought her dinner while she was healing from hip surgery.  In her post surgical, drug induced state, she invited me to sit on her bed and keep her company, where I laughed at her lack of inhibition.  To this day, she still remembers very little of our conversation.

We since then have constantly bonded through our love of honesty, our laughter at human foibles, and the sheer crazy brilliance of our spouses, who we adore, but sometimes make us bonkers.

Sue and her husband have a business in our town.  Their business is one of the lifeblood’s of Manheim and they sponsor every team and every club, donating to everyone who may need it.  This isn’t what makes her so amazing though.  Sue is special because she is one of the most selfless people I know.  She takes care of everyone around her constantly.  She is endlessly loyal.  She is empathetic and sensitive, kind and compassionate.  She'll be your biggest champion and your greatest friend.

She’s who I call when I need to talk to someone and it helps that she’s my late night buddy.  She doesn’t sleep much which makes her an ideal companion to my limited sleeping habits too.  More often my random thought texted to her after midnight is answered within seconds.  And just this morning I started getting texts at 6.  I will miss seeing her for lunch and breakfast anytime we can sneak it into our schedule.

So I’m beyond excited we found one more day and a half mid July to sneak away together before I move, that we have a loose time frame for her first visit to Texas and I plan to return often to see her.  Love you Suzie, Q.

Sunday, May 21, 2017

You Might Not Know That...

...fried onions are my caloric kryptonite.   I can eat a whole Costco bag of them like potato chips.
...I love to lay in the sun, not for the tan - although that's nice, but because it makes me feel good.
...I once put a boogie on every single one of my sister's dresser handles because I was mad at her.
...the preposterous things I say are to distract from someone else that I can tell is uncomfortable.
...I care very little what most people think of me.
...for all my outgoingness, I usually prefer to be alone or with just my family.

...putting puzzles together is one of my favorite past times.
...I have stacks of books all over my house waiting to be read.
....usually I keep two fans going every night to keep me cool.
...I can't stay awake for movies anymore.  I've reached "that age" and tiredness level.
...despite all my energy, most days I go to bed near tears I am so tired.

...I value nothing more than my relationship with the Lord, but I can become complacent in that.
...new adventures are my most favorite things, but that's next to my family of course.
...going on vacation for my birthday is the best gift ever.
...I can't conceive of ever not wanting to travel every corner of the world.
...I'll choose a new experience and unknown over a great thing I've already done every time.

...for all my outgoingness there are a million facets of me, I keep very close to my vest.
...I generally love people and think most everyone I have met is incredible in some way.
...seeing the good in life is a choice I hope I can make for the rest of mine.
...that most days seem very tiring, but when I look at my life it feels like a dream it is so good.
...I think I am doing okay at this thing called life.

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Teach Them Young

I have learned that service is one of the highest and noblest ways to show love to God and to our fellow man.  It's become a major tenet of my life.  I find peace in serving even when things feel crazy, hectic, and overscheduled.  It also shows me how great my kids and husband are.

And even though it's usually me overextending myself, my husband and kids will step in 100 out of 100 times to help me.  So whether you teach your kids to serve their own family members, their friends, their community, schools, or church, teach them to serve.

The dividends are countless.

Monday, May 8, 2017

My Second Home Will Be My First Home


A month ago, I was praying.  This is something of a regular occurrence for me.   I was pouring my heart out to the Lord.  I was feeling like my life was in somewhat of a rut.  I was at a plateau in growth and as a Type “A” personality, I was feeling restless.  I told Heavenly Father I would do whatever he wanted to continue growing and progressing.  Heavenly Father answered me, which wasn’t a first for me and he spoke saying “Even move to Texas?”  I immediately burst into tears.  Well this wasn’t what I had been expecting or even considering and it was totally overwhelming.  I pondered on this throughout the day, wondering if we were really supposed to move to Texas or if I was just supposed to be willing to do the proverbial whatever and this really was asking a lot.  The more I thought on it, I really did think we were supposed to move to Texas.

Next time I saw Travis, I told him about my feelings.  He laughed at me and said well good thing I haven’t received any revelation like that.  I was a little surprised by his flippancy regarding this, but in my desire to not really move, I let it go.  This really wasn’t a decision I would want our family to make based on something only I was getting. 

Three weeks later Travis was in Texas helping his brother prep his land to build a home on.  Travis was telling me how much he was loving Texas and how much he was loving the work he was doing.  I was glad that he was having so much fun, but didn’t think much of it.  The next morning as I sat to pee, once again I heard God speak from heaven and ask “Are you willing to move to Texas?”  Having been this course before, I didn’t burst into tears, but my eyes started to water.  I stopped and asked, “Heavenly Father, am I really moving to Texas?”  My body shivered from top of my head to the tips of my toes?  “Seriously?!?!?” once again the feeling came.  I looked in the mirror right in front of me, searched deep into my eyes to do a reality check and asked one more time, “You want us to move to Texas?”  Shivers one last time.

That day I started dropping finding questions to my kids about living in Texas.  Travis was still in Texas and I called him and told him I was getting some serious revelation.  I wanted him to pray and ask God if there was something he should know or be doing?  He agreed to pray about it later.  The next day he called me and said that he had gotten some answers to his prayers.  Clearly I was dying to hear what is was and feeling relief that all of this didn’t rest on my shoulders.  He continued to share and he told me that God had told him that his wife was indeed getting revelation and that he needed to heed the revelation she was receiving.  He then asked so what is this revelation.  I took a deep breath and told him that I had been getting the feelings and words that we were supposed to move to Texas again.  More than being willing to but actually doing it.  He was a bit floored, we moved to other topics.  We hung up and that started the pattern for the next week.  Each morning I would wake up and the first thing would be the voice of God or telling me we were moving to Texas followed by shivers, my go to spiritual confirmation.

Instead of burdening Travis I got started.  I started looking into homes, school districts, neighborhoods, church boundaries.  Each day, Travis and I would check in.  By the time he got home we were pretty serious about this and decided to hold a family fast.  We told each of the kids what we were thinking and feeling and that we would like to hold the family fast.  We did and most of us got the same answer that we were to move.  This exercise has done more for each of the kids than I ever imagined.  Now when the sad days come and they do, they can remember how they felt and it helps resolve their concerns. 

So how are we doing, well I tell people mostly we are 70% excited and happy for a new adventure, 15% sad to leave friends and family and 15% overwhelmed by all that we have to do.  There is comfort in doing what God tells you even if it seems like something dramatically different than what you had every imagined for yourself.  I know because something similar happened to us ten years ago to lead us here to Pennsylvania and I have had more joy and happiness than I ever imagined while living here.  So bring it on!

Friday, April 28, 2017

I Don't Home School My Kids...

but I am the number one educator of them.
I'm not one of those parents who sends my kids to school assuming
their teachers will teach them all they need to know.
And that goes for Math, English, Science and Social Studies too.
 
Teachers have their hands tied by a million rules and laws and bosses.
They are severely outnumbered.
Overworked and underpaid.
They are amazing, teachers, truly some of the most selfless people ever;
they are romantics and idealists.
The perfect people you want helping to teach your child.
But leave them as that - HELPERS in educating.
 
So I'll get off my soap box and get to the point.
I love learning.  I feel responsible for teaching my kids.
I like to give them experiences, broaden their exposure, and explore what they love.
I like to travel with them, tour around.
 
So once again instead of PSSA's,
we continued to learn...
about how guitars are made,
mining, the freeze/thaw patterns in areas near glaciers,
geography, and land features.
We went to the Poconos to visit friends too.
We live life to learn!
BUT NO HOMESCHOOLING FOR ME!
 
 

Friday, April 7, 2017

It's Become Our Thing

In high school, I hated to run long distances.  I was an excellent sprinter, and a lazy, unmotivated runner.  Had you told me that in my adult life I would spend huge amounts of time running, I legitimately would have not believed you.

But four kids and a crazy life later, there aren't many physical activities to do that are great workouts that you can squeeze into a 10 minute or 90 minute time frame, having no equipment, no other team-mates or gym buddies, at home or while vacationing quite like running.

It's become my thing.  So imagine my surprise when it became Boo's thing too.  Probably because she saw me doing and probably because every child wants to please their parents and this is a way she thought she could do it.

But now three years in, she's a total convert too.  It's in her blood.  She runs before school and every race I enter, she wants to be right there with me.  She's getting faster than me each year by leaps and bounds.  I can't wait to watch her lifelong love affair with this sport.

It really has become our thing.  And nothing is better than all that time to just talk while running on back country roads with no one but my favorite daughter by my side.

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Birthday Wrap Up and Review

So much love.  The kids are responsible for their own gifts for one another.
Sometimes they get me to take them to the store.
Sometimes they give cash,
sometimes homemade gifts.
But almost always they do good work.
All the love, you can see it.
Not only in the gifts, but the thought behind it.
Her party with friends was fun. 
They decorated cupcakes.
Her friend got her a cicada pin.
It's her nickname.
Her joy is my joy.
May she always be happy, this year and 100 more to come!