More About Me

What is it about this face?  (one on left; taken last month)

Or is it something more than the face?  Let me explain...no matter where I go...people compare me to someone.  Most often I remind them of a celebrity who they compare me to.  But almost just as often I remind them of a cousin, younger sister or best friend from home.

Don't get me wrong, where I used to be bugged or flattered depending on who they made the comparison to, because it's hard to see someone you are compared to physically and think you are more attractive {See this post from two years ago}, but maybe that just happens to me - because I have not struggled with my confidence in the looks department and instead have been blessed to think I was pretty throughout my life.  Don't get me wrong, I'm no knock down, drop dead gorgeous beauty, but I like to think of myself as above average. 

But with age, I have realized something about each of these comparisons...the people I am being compared to are almost always adored by the person who is comparing me to them.  And so whether the physical resemblance is overwhelming or not, I've learned to take them all as compliments because being compared to someone beloved is something to be cherished. 

Because although I want to be beautiful, I'd much rather be the person who makes everyone feel loved, comfortable, filled with fun memories, a nice nostalgic blast from the past or someone they hold near and dear for whatever reason.  So because I don't have all the family photos I have seen over the past two decades I'll give you a sampling of the celebrities. 

Jennifer Lawrence

Alyssa Milano

Lana Del Rey

Sandra Bullock

Emily Blunt

You Know What I Hate...

There are a few things that worry me...and one is when people say, "You remind me of ....."  This rarely ends well for me.  I'm not sure if this is a universal thing for people or just me.  Back when I was first married, I visited with a girl from church and every time I went she would tell me how much I looked like and reminded her of her sister.  Eventually I asked if she had a picture of her sister I could see.  She ran and dug one and out and brought it to me.  Needless to say her sister was not particularly attractive and somewhat overweight.  Now these were the days before I was a chubbo and although I don't think I am a great beauty or anything, I like to think that I am just slightly above average.  But it wasn't like I could say your sister is fat and ugly how do I look like her.  So I just ignored it.

In the many years since, people have uttered those same words and it always flashes me back to this time and I feel physically nervous.  My hands get sweaty, my stomach drops and I wait with baited breath to hear the comparison they are going to make.  Since then sometimes they have been good.  Once I was in Lowe's while two guys working there debated on whether I looked more like Holly Marie Combs or Alyssa Milano.  I deduced they were fans of the show "Charmed".  What concerned me there was not the comparison, because they are both attractive, but that those boys were both very familiar with the series.

Last night I was out with a friend though celebrating her birthday.  It was an eclectic mix of us, with lots of people who I had not previously known.  As we were listening to the live band, we are shouting in one another's ears to be heard over the music and I hear "She looks just like..."  I look up, knowing this is going to be about me, and shout "I hate when people say that.  I don't want to even know.  It always deflates my ego."  The guys were like no this girl is cute.  It's Sarah Silverman.  At first the name sounded familiar but there was no instant face that came to my mind.  They reminded me that she was a comedian.  I googled her with the technology of smart phones and once again, was disappointed.

I mean it's not as if she offensive looking, but maybe all these years I really have had an overinflated self esteem.  It doesn't help that my hubby is good to me and tells me I look like Katniss in Hunger Games.  A comparison I'll much more gracefully handle because although I don't necessarily see it she is very pretty.  So here's my opinion on the matter.  If you must compare me to someone please use someone who is more attractive than I am by a considerable amount so as not to bruise my ego.
 
On another note: eventually I found this picture of Sarah Silverman and if this is what they have in mind when they think of her than that is fine.  I will happily accept this one.